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Why do Christians wear a plain golden ring on their fingers as a sign of marriage? Kyriel D’Souza gives us the answer

A ring on the third finger of the left hand says something to the world at large. It speaks to all, and to the couple especially, about love and matrimony. It is a sign of nuptial vows, a visible reminder of their promise to love and to be faithful to each other. Marriage is a giving-receiving relationship. The use of a ring for the bride and one for the groom perhaps more clearly symbolizes that notion. Both give, both receive, a circular sign of this commitment to love and to honour each other until death.

By placing the ring only part way on his bride’s finger, the groom indicates his giving of himself to her. As she draws it on the rest of the way, his bride manifests her acceptance of that gift, of that commitment.

My Love: The ring is a symbol of the covenantal relationship. The first covenant seen in the Bible is in Genesis 9. It is the covenant God makes with Noah after the mass destruction caused by the flood. Genesis 9, 13 says: “I am putting my bow in the clouds. It will be the sign of my covenant with the world” Since then the wedding ring has been exchanged on the wedding day to be the sign of the Covenant – the everlasting relationship.

The Ring is Round: It has no beginning and no end. It symbolizes the lasting loyalty to each other. It symbolizes a continuous relationship – a process of growth.

The ring as a protective cover: The ring provides a protective cover to the finger. It symbolizes the loyalty of the couple to each other, in good times and in bad to stand by and be the strength and support of each other. Loyalty for Christians means a commitment of lifelong fidelity, despite the ups and downs of life.

Belongingness: Last but not the least the wedding ring symbolizes belongingness. “You are mine and I am yours”. We recall the Parable of the Prodigal Son (Luke 15, 22-24) wherein the father says: “Put a ring on his finger… for this son of mine was dead, but now he is alive, he was lost, but now he has been found”. The putting of the ring on the finger of the son by the father meant that the prodigal son was now no longer accepted as a slave or servant but as a son. The ring is therefore a symbol of belonging.

Precious: To conclude I would say that the wedding rings are made of expensive metal. The sheen of the precious metal can remind us of the glory of Heaven which is promised to those who love. It reminds us to make our love eternal – to make our love heavenly.